Mentee/Mentor Relationship-Experience
JMAMONI Lifestyle & Etiquette Institute Pte. Ltd.
Oct 09, 2018

My Mentorship Experience

I have been often asked to share my mentorship experiences with Educational Institutions around the world. Especially during the past two years, I have had the good fortune to mentor several NUS (National University of Singapore) students (in Faculties such as Architect/Design, Law, Medicine and Scientists) through a series of face-to-face conversation and emails and each mentorship experience was completely different. I personally see the mentee/mentor relationship as growing together.

After being matched with a mentee, the first step, namely to meet in personal, is the most crucial one. Why? First of all, it’s important to show up which isn't the easiest step especially when dealing with millennials or the work-loaded last year undergraduates and secondly, get to know each other in order to discuss topics with immediate feedbacks that allow your conversation to have a more personal and relaxed feeling in order to gain trust.

We all face challenges as we go through our education and training. We question our decisions and look for direction from the examples of our predecessors. There is a point in time when we gain the ability to reflect on these experiences and begin to provide others with advice. This experience reminded me that mentoring offers positive outcomes for all participants in the conversation; in this case, not just for my mentees, but for me as well.

Personally, I think our collective knowledge is a strength and our experiences can lead the next generation of professionals

The act of discussing these experiences with a mentee gave me a new sense of affirmation as I recognized my mentees were facing some of the same feelings of insecurities I had experienced at that age, which by the way, many of us do forget! As we continued, our conversation developed into more of a shared reflection rather than a one-sided, mentor-to-mentee monologue. Conversation should be like a tennis match where the ball keeps coming back in different ways and shapes. This way, you can balance the power in the relationship you're trying to build.

A challenge is the expectations of holding time lines. If the mentor and student do not have an open conversation about timelines, unfortunately there will be a potential for a conflict of expectations. We all struggle nowadays with the timing of events in our lives, and as a student it sometimes seems as if your time is constantly lost to a schedule created by other people. The discussion of this time management topic releases a huge burden of guilt on the students.

Personally, I think together, mentor and mentee do make an active step in a positive direction toward their future successes.

My final reflection after years of mentorship experience is that mentoring is a continuum: the more people join any kind of mentorship programme, the stronger all our voices become.

About the Author

Juliana Mamoni, ‘mompreneur’, Founder and Director of the Lifestyle & Etiquette Institute, is a globally recognised Lifestyle expert, known by many as "The Life Guru". She is a BA graduate in Economics with a further degree in Hotel Management (Berlin), a diploma in Men's Fashion Design (Milan), coached by an assistant to the acclaimed late designer Gianni Versace. Juliana is a member of the International School of Protocol and Diplomacy (ISPD Brussels) and Protocol And Diplomacy International - Protocol Officers Association (PDI-POA Boston/USA).

She holds workshops and instructional meetings addressing Business, Social, Youth Etiquette and also Protocol & Soft Diplomacy. Her aim is simple: to help people make healthier, more socially appropriate choices, resulting in happier, more rewarding and successful lives (professionally and personally).

Juliana is also Author of "Contemporary Business Etiquette for Success at Work", "10 Power Soft Skills for Success at Work", "Help Your Child Shine - Youth Etiquette & Character Education Ages 5-17"

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